Specialties

I help people with BPD, EUPD and Multiple Personality Disorder:

Borderline Personality Disorder (Multiple Personality or Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder)

“The Intense Chaotic & Obsessive Lover”

These personality “adaptations” or self-created adjustments feel like “split personalities” or you’re experiencing extremely unstable emotions. This is due to being faced with prolonged stress, instability and high conflict in interpersonal, personal and family relationships for years. Family relationship dysfunction is common and can breed mental and physical illness. A parent or both parents were narcissistic and controlling or have suffered from a form of addictions themselves.

The easiest and most relatable way to explain these personality disorders is that you feel a lot and what you feel is very intense. It’s intense in that it’s high, it’s low and it’s dramatic. It’s nevera dull moment in being you or in your romantic relationships.You hold onto your relationships very tightly and you love very intensely. You’re afraid to be abandoned and you never want to be left alone.

You tend to intensely love or be addicted to others with addiction or substance abuse. It’s stressful, chaotic and it’s taken a toll on your physical health. All of this stress has been affecting your skin, bowels or other inflammatory ailments you’re struggling with.

Client Case 1 (substitute name):

“The Healer & The Em path with quiet BPD”

Julie claims she has quiet BPD, multiple personalities and narcissistic traits. She also believes she’s a healer and an empath. She loves her narcissistic and abusive boyfriend. He loses it and has been verbally, emotionally and physically abusive with her. But she loves him and is addicted to the intensity, the highs, lows and the abuse of the relationship. Though she know sit’s wrong, her nervous system, emotions and body are attracted to him otherwise. She is addicted and goes back to him. The abuse cycle plays out in that, there is abuse, the separation, then the return.

Julie also suffers from bowel inflammation and skin rashes. Julie doesn’t need to know what’s the right thing to do, in fact she has great advice with friends and family but she won’t tell them because they don’t and won’t understand. The countless blogs also tell her what to do but she cannot help that she is always attracted to and loves such a person.

In cases like this, addiction to an abusive person is real. If you are like Julie, you were wired through the nervous system to love someone who is abusive. You want to deeply save them.You want to deeply help them heal and have a severe level of hope that they can.

It was and is your adaptation to survive and love in this way from within your core. In these cases, healing at the nervous system level, healing attachment trauma and having awareness of how to go through these addictions via the soul and body is key. Together, we made sense of the purpose of multiple personas that are created by the self and how to bring them back together. Working with someone who understands the trajectory of how these addictions and personalities work, becoming aware and working through the emotional trauma are important to recovery and freeing yourself from addiction and the suffering that comes from loving in this toxic way.

Client Case Example 2:

”The Reclaiming Creative Self & Borderline Personality”

Samantha is a bright academic student and has pushed away her creative self all her life.Though she was emotionally unstable, she has managed to push through her studies. She hasn’t even really identified with being creative but has realized she is naturally a more creative or artistic type. She has struggled with her emotion sand her health issues particularly around inflammation, bowel issues and eating disorders. She also has a history of suicidal ideation (not acted upon) and has family members with a history of mental illness and addictions.

She realizes her path that she is on is not true to her authentic self. She seeks change in the direction and begins to explore more of a creative path, following her intuition. It can be difficult to navigate such unknown terrain without proper guidance along with managing mental,emotional health struggles.

The romantic relationship she is in, is intense, in that she feels a lot and she fears being abandoned. The arguments or conflicts that arise from this relationship leave her feeling addicted, high and low. She admits she seeks the pain and is in fact addicted to pain.Conviction, extreme highs, lows, emptiness and emotional pain are cycles she commonly experiences.

A therapist-client therapeutic relationship, developing awareness and validation of this process,and the techniques to work through such challenge scan provide guidance on her creative pat hand point her toward a direction of soul healing,authenticity, creativity and a purpose-filled life.